May 30, 2012

A few MISSED Thank You's

For those of you who read my post yesterday and may have felt left out because you were a HUGE help to me while I was sick, please know that I didn't forget you.  I didn't have all the time in the world to thank everyone who gave so much of themselves to me at that time.  There were a few people that I specifically wanted to thank that I missed.  I had an amazing woman come and wash my hair and cut it for me when I was to sick to leave my house one day, and I will never be able to express the love that I have in my heart for her.  That moment was so special to me and made me feel pretty when I had felt so sick for so long.  Also, to my amazing sister in law Stacy who came and colored my hair; she and her family bought dinner for Dave and just spent the night with us helping me to forget how sick I was in that moment.  It's a big deal to a girl to have her hair done and feel beautiful and to have 2 women come and make me pretty and do it for free meant the world to me.  So thank you to both of you.

Like I said, there are so many more, and as I go about my day I keep remembering them.  So please just know that you are not forgotten, and the love and kindness you showed my husband and I will never be forgotten and you will forever be in my heart.  Thank YOU! Thank YOU! Thank YOU!

May 29, 2012

3 Years to the Day....

 As I sit here this morning reflecting on the last 3 years of my life, I stand in awe of my family, friends, doctor, and nurses.  3 Years ago today I became deathly ill to the point where I was unable to swallow even saliva without throwing it up.  I would never have made it through those times in my life without you.  

To all of the people who visited me in the hospital when I was there for 45 days and slowly starving to death, the days when I finally came home because my doctor said that there was nothing more they could do for me, and I had ladies from my ward there to spend the day with me while my husband was in school.  To all of you who made meals for my sweet Dave to eat because I was too sick to hold myself up to a stove.

To the nurses who spent hours upon hours in the middle of the night talking to me in my room, Patrick, Nate, Paul, and so many others.  To my mom who would come and relieve Dave every other night so he could get to sleep in our bed at home instead of on a couch in the hospital room.  To my sister who flew in and slept on an air mattress in my hospital room because she thought it would be our last moments together.  To my brother Paul who brought my husband a meal at 12:30 in the morning one Tuesday night which I was so thankful for because he hadn't eaten in days.

Thank you to Sherri for teaching me to never stop learning, and even helping me finish my first quilt. To my sweet sister in law Melissa for teaching me how to crochet so I had something to do as I laid on the couch day in and day out. (I don't think that football size quilt will ever be finished.)  To all the ladies in the ward who signed up to come and visit me a few times a week so I wouldn't be alone (and do the death check), standing and knocking at the door until I answered.  To my amazing home healthcare nurse who came 4 times a week and hooked up my IV to give me my 4 hours and 2 bags of liquid meals just to keep me alive.
To my Mom and Dad who after a year of watching me go through 12 surgeries with no answers and not knowing why I couldn't eat, having faith enough to take out of their retirement for a surgery that had never been done before, by a doctor that had never heard of anything like this being done, and to a 10% chance that I would actually live through it, thank you for having that faith and hope that it would save my life.
To my amazing Dr. McKinlay for sticking with me even when I had no insurance to pay him, and needed more surgeries to just live.  I remember crying to him in his office because I knew I needed another surgery and couldn't pay, and his sweet words to me were, "Jill, I'm with you until the end whenever that may be."

To Roz, my doctor's amazing head nurse who took my phone calls day and night.  Who watched me slowly lose more and more weight.  Who wheeled me around in a wheel chair because my 25 year old body was too weak to walk.

To all the people from every country, every state in America, every news anchor, and every friend, who donated their time, talents, or money, in some way shape or form to make it possible for me to get the surgery that saved my life.  I truly couldn't have survived this without you.

So on my 3rd annual "Live Day" I want to thank each of you for being part in saving my life and walking this journey with me.  I couldn't have done it alone.  I still have trials due to this health problem, but I can face anything with all the people I have on my side. To you I say Thank you, and I love you.  I am truly humbled by your compassion and grace.

Last but not least, to my amazing husband.  I can't imagine what you went through.  I wouldn't have traded places with you if I had the chance.  I can't imagine what it was like for you to watch your new bride sit and die.  I don't know what it was like for you to go through surgery after surgery sitting by the phone in that waiting room hoping that the doctor would call with some good news that rarely came.  I don't know what it was like for you when the doctor told us that there was nothing more that we could do so to go home and live like it was the last day we were going to get.  
I don't know how you got up and went to school every day and continued to be a 4.0 student.  I don't know how you functioned when you were thinking that you were going to have to plan your wife's funeral very soon.  I don't know what I would do if I had to walk in every night and see you getting thinner, and weaker, and so very frail.  I don't know how I would have given you baths, washed your hair, brushed your teeth, painted your toes, or held your hand and just sat next to you watching TV laughing, while the entire time in the back of your brain you were thinking that this might be the last night I get to spend with the love of my life.  

Thank you to you my sweet David, for loving me even though you knew it wasn't going to be for very much longer.  Thank you for spending each day with me like it was the last one we were going to have together.  Thank you for being my greatest support, my best friend, and the love of my life.  I don't know how you did it.  I don't ever want to have to go through what you did, but I will forever be grateful for what you went through.  You are my hero, and I'm so thankful that I got to share the hardest time in my life with my best friend.  God couldn't have given a greater challenge to a greater man.  He knew you were strong enough to go through it, and come out better than when you started.

Dave, I know we did so much of those years alone and all by ourselves, but I will never regret any of them.  It taught us to lean on each other.  It taught us that we can get through even the hardest things in this life as long as we have one another to lean on.  I know I can do anything if I have you by my side, so thank you for loving me, caring for me, working for me, spending hours at hospitals with me, going through surgery after endless surgery with me, and still taking care of me to this day with all the health problems I still have and most likely always will.  Our life was never meant to be easy.  I don't think either one of us could have ever imagined how hard it would really be, but I know that we can truly make it through anything as long as we have each other.  So to you and everyone else, Thank you for helping me get to my 3rd year "Live Day".

Eternally Grateful,
Jilly Strasburg

May 13, 2012

Our Love Affair

Lately Dave and I have received so many comments on our love.  Where does it come from?  How are you 2 so in love?  and my favorite, "Every time I see you 2 I just want to start singing "Here Comes the Bride" because you are still in love like newlyweds."  Yes, I love my Dave more than anything on this planet.  I love him more than my life itself, and I can say that because it came to point one time where I got to choose between my life and him, and I chose Dave.  So where does it come from?  I have dated so many guys in my life, had so many relationships, and I just never felt like they were "the one" for me.  Some of them were amazing guys and I still care a great deal about a few of them, but they just weren't for me.  When I met Dave, from the instant he walked through that parking lot towards me I knew that something was different.  He had a light about him  that I had never experienced and I knew that he was the one.  Now I know that sounds so cliche' but, I knew Dave was the man I was going to marry the instant I met him.  It was truly love at first sight.

Our love didn't just happen.  Our love isn't "the greatest love on earth" just by chance.  We went through hell and back to have the love that we have.  Picture this if you can, you get married after dating for a year.  One month after you're married your wife becomes deathly ill and instead of deciding when you are going to have kids you are thinking about planning her funeral.  Every moment that Dave and I shared together that first year of marriage we truly believed that it would be the last.  

I used to wake up every morning and watch the sun come up because I didn't know if I was going to see the sun rise the following day.  Every morning when I was so sick and couldn't eat I still made breakfast for my husband every day because I didn't know if I was going to get the same chance tomorrow.  Dave and I truly lived in the moment.  We lived as if it were the last day we would ever get together.  Having that happen to you makes all the little quarrels, little issues, his little quirks, or mine that drove each other nuts, don't seem to important.  The fact that he didn't put his dirty clothes in the laundry basket didn't matter.  It became something about him that I cherished because tomorrow I might not be here to pick up those clothes and put them away.  I still feel that way today.  I still pick up his dirty clothes every night and stick them in the laundry with a smile on my face, and a warm heart because it's what makes the man I love my Davey.  It makes him the wonderful, amazing, man he is.  Those little things that drive each other nuts in marriage Dave and I don't experience.  We learned to love every little thing about each other because those were moments that we might have to keep in our memory when I was gone the next day.

Now that being said, do we still argue?  Of course we do.  Is it extremely rare that we fight?  Extremely.  We don't fight a lot because what is there really to fight about?  When little things don't bother your the pointless fights don't matter.  If we do argue, it's about our core value system being touched and that's about it.  

I know that what makes Dave and my love "Newlywed Love" is the mutual respect, love, and charity that we have had to learn in the 1st year of our marriage.  I still look at him like I did when we sat across the alter from one another and declared our love and respect for one another on our wedding day.  I can honestly say though that I love him more today than I did the day I married him.  I love him more today than I did yesterday.  I love that man with every fiber of my being.  He is the most amazing, loving, kind, fun, happy, hard working, and dedicated, man I have ever met.  Like I told him last night while I was looking him in the eyes, "You are the greatest and best man I have ever known." and I truly mean that.  I don't know any man that is better than my David.  I feel so lucky and blessed to have the love that we have.

So for those of me who ask where we get our love, or how can they have the love that we have?  It's simple, don't fight about the little things because they could one day be gone, don't disrespect your significant other, and love like you want to be loved.

I love you sweetheart.  Thank you for making my life special and worth every second that I live it.  Thanks for making this Mother's Day great with breakfast in bed and by teaching my sweet sunday school class today.  You're the best!

To all you Mother's, Happy Mother's Day.  The job you do is the greatest and best and toughest job on the planet, and you deserve all the praise in the world.  I love you Mom, and all the Mother's in my life.